Playmate
Playmate
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PLAYMATE
15% of Americans
The Lowdown: You are turned on by enthusiasm, by just trying things that could be fun: your favorite sex is filled with laughter, discovery, and joy.
The Partner’s Job: When you are with a Playmate, your job is to create an atmosphere that fosters deep emotional intimacy and supports intensity. This will ask you to bring passion, presence, extreme attention to your partner, and an appreciation for their mystery.
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playmates
by the Stats
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15% of Americans
18% of Men
13% of Women
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20% of Bisexual Women
17% of Gay Men
17% of Straight Men
13% of Bisexual Men
13% of Straight Women
7% of Bisexual Men
Less than .5% of Lesbian Women
* We also recorded data from Americans who identified as pansexual, asexual, and (separately) nonbinary, but each of these identifications was so small as to be less than half of our margin of error, so we’re not including this data due to the potential for misrepresenting their views.
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Standout Signs: Aries, Libra, Pieces
“We look for new positions to play. And new places to do it and I mean it could be on the porch, could be in the living room, could be on the kitchen table. Good idea in the laundry room of our apartment complex.”
- Playmate, to us (57, Man, Heterosexual, Food Server)
What Playmates fantasize about:
“We knew our week would be busy so we planned to go to a neighboring city for the weekend and get a hotel room. We'd go out for dinner and dancing and have a few drinks. We'll return to the room and continue drinks as we both change. We talk and drink, anticipating what we've talked about all week, but I'm talking too much. She places her hand over my mouth and starts kissing me. I shut up and jump into action. I got the clue. We go from 0 to 100 in seconds. I start sucking her tits as her grinding speeds up. I lay her on her back and go face first between her legs. She stops me, we go 69. I almost cum, so I stop her then turn around and penetrate. Missionary for a while, then she pushes me back and goes for a ride. We explode together.
We both lay back exhausted. We giggle at the fact that we're sweating. We have a couple more drinks and after a half hour, we start it all over again.”
- Playmate, to us (59, Man, Heterosexual)
“Cuddling and staring into each other's eyes. Gently caressing each other. Being funny and joking but also caring and loving.”
- Playmate, to us (59, Woman, Heterosexual, Warehouse Manager)
Pleasing a Playmate
We asked Playmates what specific acts were important to pleasing them in this mode:
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61% of Playmates
48% of Americans
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71% of Playmates
59% of Americans
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51% of Playmates
43% of Americans
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22%% of Playmates
11% of Americans
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49% of Playmates
38% of Americans
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56% of Playmates
33% of Americans
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But, not all Playmates are the same; Some wanted:
Power dynamic play involving bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism (BDSM)
25% Playmates
20% All Americans
Climax Denial
33% Playmates
27% All Americans
Coaching from Playmates
• Follow the fun • Embrace laughter and play • Give verbal feedback on what’s working •
“I tell my husband when he is doing things right or say things like ‘slower’ or ‘faster.’ I also say things like ‘that’s perfect.’ Afterwards, I find it easier to say what might’ve worked [better] for me. I never say negative things or give discouraging comments.”
- Playmate, to us (48, Woman, Heterosexual, Small Business Owner)
“Let your guard down open your mind and let the fun go where it may.”
- Playmate, to us (42, Man, Heterosexual, Forklift Operator)
“Intimacy. Skin contact, prolonged embrace. Silliness and laughter. Shared looks and acts of affection.”
- Playmate, to us (39, Man, Heterosexual)
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Watchouts
Avoid the following:
Bringing seriousness or negativity
2. Having rigid expectations
3. Using degradation or overly explicit talk
