Hold Me Closer
Hold Me Closer
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HOLD ME CLOSER
28% of Americans
The Lowdown: You crave the physical closeness of sex, skin contact/cuddling — maybe even more than the sex itself; you want to hold and/or be held.
The Partner’s Job: When you are with a Hold Me Closer, your core job is to satiate their need for physical closeness, make them feel held, provide affectionate gestures of touch, take your time, and patiently build up to more traditional sex acts.
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HOLD ME CLOSER by the Stats
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28% of Americans
34% Women
23% Men
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35% of Straight Women
33% of Bisexual Men
31% of Gay Men
28% of Bisexual Women
25% of Lesbian Women
22% of Straight Men
* We also recorded data from Americans who identified as pansexual, asexual, and (separately) nonbinary, but each of these identifications was so small as to be less than half of our margin of error, so we’re not including this data due to the potential for misrepresenting their views.
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Standout Signs: Libra & Aries.
What HOLD ME CLOSERs
fantasize about:
“We’re lying close together cuddling and I feel like I don’t even need sex. This is enough for me.”
- Hold Me Closer, to us
“This person does not require much to enjoy sex, they are happy simply with physical touch and intimacy. As much as they want to orgasm, they still just crave closeness. Getting this person aroused is quite easy. It could be as simple as a kiss on the neck. They want to know that you are in the moment with them. After sex, I would treat them with continued intimacy in the form of cuddling as we recover and to make sure I express verbally how it felt."
- Hold Me Closer, to us (35-44, Woman, Lesbian)
“We sat across from each other looking intently in each other's eyes. He finally pulled me close and sat me on his lap. He caressed my body and kissed me gently on the lips. I melted in his arms and succumbed to his touch. He undressed my blouse and buried his face between my breasts. I undid my pants so he could reach between my legs. I melted at his touch.”
- Hold Me Closer, to us (76, Woman, Heterosexual)
Pleasing a HOLD ME CLOSER
We asked Hold Me Closers what specific acts were important to pleasing them in this mode:
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77% of Hold Me Closers
59% of Americans
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61% of Hold Me Closers
51% of Americans
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70% of Hold Me Closers
48% of Americans
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58% of Hold Me Closers
43% of Americans
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Not all Hold Me Closer are the same; some told us they also wanted:
Spanking (light or heavy)
37% Hold Me Closers
37% All Americans
Biting
32% Hold Me Closers
28% All Americans
Climax denial
28% Hold Me Closers
27% All Americans
Coaching from HOLD ME CLOSERS
• Maximize skin-to-skin contact • Provide care and closeness • Maximize holding and cuddling after intimacy •
“Slowly start by feeling yourself breathing on your partner and kissing everything from head to toe, making your body closer.”
- Hold Me Closer, to us (56, Woman, Heterosexual)
“Take your time, look deep into his or her eyes, if they look back and smile you may have a connection. Then talk about him or her, lead the conversation, and find out all you can about the other person. Try to get as close and intimate as possible, suggest a massage or a simple rub down. Once all the clothes are on the floor, begin with the shoulders down the arms, work your way down her body and pay close attention to what they like or don't like. Once the massages are done then the intimacy can really start.”
- Hold Me Closer, to us
“I would coach them to caress me and kiss me and stroke my hair leading up to the sex act. Afterwards we lay close to one another intertwined.”
- Hold Me Closer, to us (64, Woman, Heterosexual)
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Watchouts
Avoid the following:
1. Rushing into the sex act or intercourse
2. Not holding in a way the partner likes
3. Acts that are too adventurous or challenging
