Cosmic lover
Cosmic lover
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COSMIC LOVER
17% of Americans
The Lowdown: You are turned on by deep, soulful, emotional intimacy; you like the passionate intensity of “merging into one” or “losing yourself” in someone else.
The Partner’s Job: When you are with a Cosmic Lover, your job is to create an atmosphere that fosters deep emotional intimacy and supports intensity. This will ask you to bring passion, presence, extreme attention to your partner, and an appreciation for their mystery.
Hear a real COSMIC LOVER
Cosmic Lovers by the Stats
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17% of Americans
18% Women
16% Men
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25% of Lesbian Women
19% of Gay Men
16% of Straight Men
18% of Straight Women
18% of Bisexual Women
7% of Bisexual Men
* We also recorded data from Americans who identified as pansexual, asexual, and (separately) nonbinary, but each of these identifications was so small as to be less than half of our margin of error, so we’re not including this data due to the potential for misrepresenting their views.
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Standout Signs: Scorpio. Capricorn & Pisces
What Cosmic Lovers fantasize about:
“This person wanted to experience me and understand me on a deeper, more emotional level. He wanted to know my every desire, my needs, my wants, my loves and hates, my planets, the galaxies within my universe. He wanted to be seen, to feel heard, to be loved. I would encourage him to take off his condom so I could feel his soul better. Afterwards, we would hold each other, staring into each other's eyes, each other's universes. I miss that.”
- Cosmic Lover, to us (25-34, Woman, Bisexual)
“I remember being close to Z. He was looking into my eyes. He held my gaze. He wasn't scared. He didn't look away. And I kept waiting for him to. But, he kept not looking away. He could see me. Really see me, like in the therapy way. It wasn't that we were playing chicken, but we were both like: “If you're not scared, I'm not scared”. It may have been minutes. Z spoke first, he said: ‘it’s amazing to me that I can connect with you so deeply just through your eyes.’ I was already dead. I was dead! And I really, really wanted his whole body inside me.
- Cosmic Lover, to us (45-54, Woman, Bisexual)
“In that moment, she spotted her partner, a soul drawn into her orbit. With a gentle smile, she beckoned him closer, her voice a melodic whisper that echoed through the void. The very fabric of reality seemed to bend as they drew near, an unbreakable bond pulling them together. They floated in a dance, weaving through the stars, exploring the vastness of the universe hand in hand. She shared tales of ancient galaxies and celestial wonders, her words a soothing balm that wrapped around him like a warm embrace.”
- Cosmic Lover, to us (37, Woman, Heterosexual)
Pleasing a Cosmic Lover
We asked Cosmic Lovers what specific acts were important to pleasing them in this mode:
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70% of Cosmic Lovers
49% of Americans
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62% of Cosmic Lovers
35% of Americans
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61% of Cosmic Lovers
37% of Americans
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60% of Cosmic Lovers
41% of Americans
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60% of Cosmic Lovers
46% of Americans
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56% of Cosmic Lovers
33% of Americans
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Not all Cosmic Lovers are the same; some told us they also wanted:
Biting
36% Cosmic Lovers
28% All Americans
Climax Denial
36% Cosmic Lovers
27% All Americans
Spanking
39% Cosmic Lovers
37% All Americans
Coaching from cosmic lovers
• Build deep, soulful connection • Give intense eye contact and build intensity • Give verbal expressions of affection •
“Hold me as tightly as possible, make me feel like I might lose control and that is okay. Long eye contact, light biting, saying our names a lot.”
- Cosmic Lover, to us (53, Woman, Pansexual, Petsitter)
“I often say ‘I'm a lover not a fucker.’ I am intensely intimate but it's always real love or it doesn't work for me. I want you to kiss me until you don't know who you are anymore, and then fuck me like your life depends on it.”
- Cosmic Lover, to us (45-54, Woman, Bisexual)
“You have to be connected to me in a soulful way, which means admiring what I love and you need to engage me, stare at my eyes, touch me slowly and passionately, kiss me deep and love me hard. Like it's the last time making love.”
- Cosmic Lover, to us (25, Woman, Heterosexual, Animal Rights Worker)
Steal a trick
“Tell me what it feels like”
Try sexily whispering in your partner's ear, asking them to vocalize the sensation they are experiencing in their bodies.
Watchouts
Avoid the following:
1. Going too fast or too rough
2. Breaking the mutual trance/pushing your desires
3. Degrading talk or names
