Flirty Fighter
Flirty Fighter
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FLIRTY FIGHTER
9% of Americans
The Lowdown: You are turned on by games of cat and mouse, play fighting; you love chasing, laughter, teasing, wrestling, rough-and-tumble play.
The Partner’s Job: When you are with a Flirty Fighter, your core job is to create a playful push-and-pull tension, a game of cat and mouse; alternately, if they initiate through playful provocation, play back.
Hear a real FLIRTY FIGHTER
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FLIRTY FIGHTERS by the Stats
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9% of Americans
9% Women
9% Men
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17% of Bisexual Women
15% of Lesbian Women
10% of Straight Men
7% of Gay Men
7% of Straight Women
7% of Bisexual Men
* We also recorded data from Americans who identified as pansexual, asexual, and (separately) nonbinary, but each of these identifications was so small as to be less than half of our margin of error, so we’re not including this data due to the potential for misrepresenting their views.
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Standout Signs: Leo & Aries.
What flirty fighters fantasize about:
“We're sitting on the couch, I look over at him and shove my foot into his legs. He grabs my legs and holds them down, I fight to get free. I finally get up and jump into his lap holding him down, he flips me onto the couch, and that leads to kissing, and then more wrestling both trying to be dominant. I get into his lap and start grinding his lap. I removed his shirt. And then my own, and our bodies become intertwined, while kissing. Then the rest of our clothes are removed, and we start having sex, while rubbing, touching, kissing each other.”
- Flirty Fighter, to us
“He was a young French man working in the finance world. We met through martial arts and laughed during our sparring rounds. Our flirtation truly only began when he asked me over for tea. I was in his one bedroom apartment, combing through his shelves of books and he playfully hugged me from behind. When we’d kiss, he’d lean into the passion, but only for a moment, and then pull back. I had never experienced this kind of push and pull tension so clearly. We would be in the middle of making out and he would suddenly pull back, sigh, and just sit back with this look of total relaxation and a second later, jump back in. It was this hot and cold thing he’d do that felt like an invitation for play. We really did play. I remember asking him to close his eyes, to let out his tongue, and I sucked it. It was such a bizarre thing to do. He was shocked. We both just laughed and gave each other this look that signaled “game on”
- Flirty Fighter (27, Woman, Heterosexual, Hospitality), to us
Pleasing a flirty fighter
We asked Flirty Fighters what specific acts were important to pleasing them in this mode:
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78% of Flirty Fighters
59% of Americans
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66% of Flirty Fighters
51% of Americans
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65% of Flirty Fighters
32% of Americans
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63% of Flirty Fighters
37% of Americans
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61% of Flirty Fighters
31% of Americans
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22% of Flirty Fighters
12% of Americans
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Not all Flirty Fighters are the same, some told us they also wanted:
Cuddling
57% Flirty Fighters
48% All Americans
Verbal confessions of love
54% Flirty Fighter
33% All Americans
Lots of pillow talk
34% Flirty Fighter
23% All Americans
Coaching from FLIRTY FIGHTERS
• Create cat and mouse, push-pull dynamics • Try physical wrestling, tickling, teasing, play-fighting • Embracing laughing and joking •
“Always fight back and eventually surrender.”
- Flirty fighter, to us (38, Woman, Heterosexual, Cake Artist)
“A play fighter wants to be poked, fight back, laugh, and then find softness. A play fighter thrives on the push-and-pull. This could look like playfully tackling them and then creating sweetness by kissing him/her from feet to neck. This could look like being at the movies and asking her if she wants a gummy bear, putting it between your teeth and giving her a smirk, inviting her to bite it out of your mouth. This could look like sweet and slow sex with a whole lot of biting.”
- Flirty fighter, to us
“I like the fight for dominance or who's ‘on top’. I want us both to enjoy each other's bodies in as many ways as possible. I want you to be down to choke, hit, wrestle me and vice versa. Bondage is also a fun time. I don't like rough dirty talk, but I love laughing and joking during sex. Afterwards we chat or cuddle or watch TV or something — maybe eat some food.”-
-Flirty fighter, to us (25-34, Man, Heterosexual)
Steal a trick
The “Come and Get It”
You’re at the movies with your partner. Ask them if they want a gummy bear, but before giving it to them, put it between your teeth. Give them a smirk, inviting them to bite it out of your mouth. You can do this with any delicious food, but candy is best.
Watchouts
Avoid the following:
1. Missing the invite to play
2. Giving in too quickly or easily
3. Playing too rough or “actually hurting”
