Good Girl/Boy
Good Girl/Boy
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GOOD GIRL/BOY
11% of Americans
The Lowdown: You are turned on by being the object of desire for someone with more experience or power: you want to be guided, led, taught, and doing a “good job” brings you pleasure.
The Partner’s Job: When you are with a Good Girl/Boy, your core job is to use your partner for your pleasure, but with a caring vibe including lots of verbal praise and affectionate encouragement.
*term originated from the kink community
Hear a real GOOD GIRL/BOY
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good girl/boys by the Stats
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11% of Americans
13% Women
9% Men
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27% of Bisexual Men
24% of Gay Men
22% of Bisexual Women
20% of Lesbian Women
11% of Straight Women
7% of Straight Men
* We also recorded data from Americans who identified as pansexual, asexual, and (separately) nonbinary, but each of these identifications was so small as to be less than half of our margin of error, so we’re not including this data due to the potential for misrepresenting their views.
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Standout Signs: Leo & Gemini
What good girls/boys fantasize about:
“Being led to do his pleasure, he grips my hair softly. I moan and look into his eyes. It slowly gets more intense as I speed him to pleasure. When he finishes, I get a kiss and a ‘good job princess’. I feel so loved.”
- Good Girl/Boy, to us (27, Woman, Heterosexual, Homemaker)
“I fantasize about being a young naive girl, a little forest nymph who never goes to school but instead waits for him in the forest. In the fantasy, I’m always waiting patiently until dark for him to come, trying to prove to him what a good girl I am. I’m waiting to feel the chill down my spine and the wetness between my legs when I hear him growl ‘that’s my babygirl’ out from the dark forest behind me.”
- Good Girl/Boy, to us (33, Woman, Bisexual)
“I come over to your house and we start the evening with some sensual touching and drinks. You lead me into your bedroom and guide me through exactly what you want me to do or what you want to do to me.”
- Good Girl/Boy, to us (35, Man, Bisexual, Project Manager)
Pleasing a good girl/boy
We asked Good Girls/Boys what specific acts were important to pleasing them in this mode:
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59% of Good Girls/Boys
24% of Americans
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70% of Good Girls/Boys
59% of Americans
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64% of Good Girls/Boys
47% of Americans
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59% of Good Girls/Boys
48% of Americans
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57% of Good Girls/Boys
37% of Americans
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49% of Good Girls/Boys
30% of Americans
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Not all Good Girls/Boys are the same; some told us they also wanted:
“Slut/Whore” talk
40% Good Girls/Boys
23% All Americans
Coaching from good girls/boys
• Direct your partner on how to please you • Provide a lot of praise and compliments • Give feedback on what pleases you •
“Tell me what to do, and don’t worry about specific taboos.”
- Good Girl/Boy, to us (55, Male, Systems Consultant)
“I would tell them I like to be praised, directed, and to please them.”
- Good Girl/Boy, to us (24, Woman, Heterosexual, Pharmacy Technician)
“I would instruct my partner to think of me in that situation as a servant and someone whose pleasure primarily comes from their happiness and enjoyment.”
- Good Girl/Boy, to us (37, Male, Heterosexual, IT)
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Watchouts
Avoid the following:
1. Making assumptions based on gender
2. Making your partner take the dominant role
3. Not giving enough praise or feedback
