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FORBIDDEN LOVER
12% of Americans
The Lowdown: You are turned on by what’s “bad” for you, what’s “wrong” for you — what you’re not allowed to have; you find pleasure in pushing or even crossing boundaries, whether with a partner or on your own.
The Partner’s Job: When you’re with a Forbidden Lover, your job is to create scenarios that feel a little dangerous, risky, or “bad." Sometimes this will involve leveraging real life tensions, other times it will be a fantasy tension you help create.
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FORBIDDEN Lovers by the Stats
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12% of Americans
11% Women
14% Men
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28% of Bisexual Women
21% of Gay Men
14% of Straight Men
10% of Lesbian Women
9% of Straight Women
0% of Bisexual Men
* We also recorded data from Americans who identified as pansexual, asexual, and (separately) nonbinary, but each of these identifications was so small as to be less than half of our margin of error, so we’re not including this data due to the potential for misrepresenting their views.
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Standout Signs: Gemini & Virgo
What forbidden Lovers fantasize about:
You’re in the office, he’s married you’re married, but you both want each other and in the heat of the moment you’re in the coffee machine room and it gets the best of you and things happen.”
- Forbidden Lover, to us
“My woman and I pretend that she is a naughty stepsister and I'm her naughty stepbrother, imagining that we are related and trying to sneak to fuck makes me hard, just talking about it.”
- Forbidden Lover, to us (38, Man, Heterosexual, Manufacturing Manager)
“I came into his state on business and accidentally bumped into him. We chatted for a minute and I went about my day and ended it in my hotel room. Right before I go to sleep, I get a knock on the door, and to my surprise, it was my forbidden friend. He wanted to talk, but not talk, if you know what I mean.”
- Forbidden Lover, to us (43, Woman, Heterosexual, Healthcare Worker)
“I walked into the kitchen and my stepmom was playing with herself so I decided to help her. I bent her dirty little ass over the table and made her huge tits bounce like crazy.”
- Forbidden Lovers, to us (39, Man, Heterosexual)
Pleasing a forbidden Lover
We asked Forbidden Lovers what specific acts were important to pleasing them in this mode:
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60% of Forbidden Lovers
37% of Americans
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57% of Forbidden Lovers
51% of Americans
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56% of Forbidden Lovers
35% of Americans
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48% of Forbidden Lovers
23% of Americans
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54% of Forbidden Lovers
32% of Americans
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17% of Forbidden Lovers
8% of Americans
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Not all Forbidden Lovers are the same; some told us they also wanted:
Verbal praise
39% Forbidden Lovers
30% All Americans
Long period of emotional connection
34% Forbidden Lovers
35% All Americans
Verbal confessions of love
33% Forbidden Lovers
31% All Americans
Coaching from forbidden lovers
• Finding the sweet spot between forbidden and exciting• Lean into creating secretive moments • Embrace spontaneity •
“I would tell them that I want to feel like anything is on the table and any desire could be filled without worry of consequence and with very limited restrictions.”
- Forbidden Lover, to us (47, Man, Heterosexual, Education)
“Treat me like a side option and not like the main course.”
- Forbidden Lover, to us (23, Man, Heterosexual, Construction)
“I think I would tell them to be scared, but not to be scared. Just kind of let go in the moment to your wildest desires. Just let everything flow.”
- Forbidden Lover, to us (30, Man, Heterosexual, Construction)
“Be spontaneous. Be secretive behind others while right there.”
- Forbidden Lover, to us (54, Woman, Heterosexual, Retired Teacher)
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Watchouts
Avoid the following:
1. Failure to understand what should stay fantasy and what can be brought into real life
2. Neglecting to navigate shame and judgment thoughtfully
3. Not being conscious to real life impacts
