Rom-Com Star
Rom-Com Star
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ROM-COM STAR
7% of Americans
The Lowdown: You are turned on by cinematic acts of romance; foreplay for you is hours of cute activities and goofing off with your partner as you build to sex.
The Partner’s Job: When you are with a Rom-Com Star, your core job is to bring the romance to everyday activities as you slowly build to something more; your foreplay begins far outside the bedroom creating space for fun, spontaneity, and play.
Hear a real rom-com star
COMING SOON
rom-com star
by the Stats
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7% of Americans
9% Women
5% Men
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17% of Gay Men
15% of Bisexual Women
9% of Straight Women
4% of Straight Men
0% of Lesbian Women
0% of Bisexual Men
* We also recorded data from Americans who identified as pansexual, asexual, and (separately) nonbinary, but each of these identifications was so small as to be less than half of our margin of error, so we’re not including this data due to the potential for misrepresenting their views.
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Standout Signs: Aries, Leo, Libra
“We both dress up and take a sunset walk with lots of sneaky touching and teasing. Dinner made together at home while goofing off, cozy relaxing together watching a favorite show with cozy, long cuddles and making out intermittently. Moving into a clean, dimly lit bedroom with no music. Really mundane atmosphere. Multiple sessions all through the night and morning, drifting in and out of sleep to go more rounds. Some feverish and wild, others languid and soft. Not always penis-in-vagina sex. We're also massaging, kissing, tasting, and masturbating each other."
- Rom-Com Star, to us (25-34, Transgender Woman, Heterosexual)
What ROM-COM STARS fantasize about:
“We are at home, after completing our weekly errands. We are affectionate even outside of our home. We hold hands while he drives, I hold his arm as we walk across the street, he buys me new things that I’ve been wanting, we do our grocery shopping together and we are having a good time in each other’s company. Once we’re home, he gets ready to barbecue our dinner. We sit next to each other by the fire and have a beer. Once the meat is done on the grill, I assemble dinner inside and make our plates. We put on a movie and smoke after we eat while cuddling. Cuddling obviously leads to something more.”
- Rom-Com Star, to us (21, Woman, Heterosexual, Server)
“A warm summer night, the hot tub is bubbling. We have wine and some lotion on a tray with candles. You move closer to me and rub the lotion on my back going down my arms. We sip our wine and slowly, but surely we undress each other and make mad passionate love in the hot tub.”
- Rom-Com Star, to us (66, Woman, Heterosexual, Retired)
Pleasing a rom-com star
We asked Rom-Com Stars what specific acts were important to pleasing them in this mode:
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66% of Rom-Com Stars
51% of Americans
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80% of Rom-Com Stars
56% of Americans
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70% of Rom-Com Stars
48% of Americans
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62% of Cosmic Lovers
33% of Americans
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72% of Rom-Com Stars
47% of Americans
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80% of Rom-Com Stars
59% of Americans
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Not all Rom-Com Stars are the same; some told us they also wanted:
Hair pulling
51% Rom-Com Stars
35% All Americans
“Slut” or “whore” talk
31% Rom-Com Stars
23% All Americans
Tantric practices
13% Rom-Com Stars
8% All Americans
Coaching from ROM-COM STARS
• Turn everyday activities into flirty foreplay • Touch, cuddle, kiss for long periods • Find lightness and have fun •
“I have to be comfortable and being goofy helps me to be more comfortable with the person”
- Rom-Com Star, to us (30, Woman, Heterosexual, Homemaker)
“Be attentive and interested in what I'm talking about while we're strolling, eating ice cream in the park or having coffee in a cute little shop, spending the entire day together getting to know each other. Do small acts that are slightly annoying to me so I can get passionate about something, invoking an emotional response that builds throughout the day. When we've had enough and can't take anymore we're thrown into a fevered, rushed sense of needing each other or we're going to explode, until we finally do melt into each other, followed by some cuddling.”
- Rom-Com Star, to us (46, Woman, Heterosexual, Homemaker)
“Let’s watch something funny like a rom-comedy and eat some good food. Cut out all the lights and start with kissing and touching. Getting undressed and then skin-to-skin contact and tightness while penetrating.”
- Rom-Com Star, to us (31, Woman, Heterosexual, Nurse)
Steal a trick
errand dates
Not all romance has to be over the top. Sometimes simple chores can be made flirty, fun and erotic when you bring intention to it, especially for this type (see errand date tok).
Watchouts
Frequently cited things that go wrong:
1. Rushing or being overly aggressive
2. Lacking the romance or love
3. Playing pornstar
