anticipator
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ANTICIPATOR
9% of Americans
The Lowdown: Sex isn’t satisfying unless you have to wait for it, anticipate it, yearn for it; teasing, taunting, withholding — even without being touched — you need these until you can’t take it anymore.
The Partner’s Job: When you are with an Anticipator, your job is to create a journey of anticipation; you are the conductor of your partner's wanting. This will ask you to tease your partner's mind, body, and imagination long before the actual sex act. Foreplay for anticipators begins hours, days, and sometimes weeks before the actual intimacy.
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ANTICIPATORs by the Stats
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9% of Americans
10% Women
7% Men
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13% of Bisexual Women
13% of Bisexual Men
10% of Lesbian Women
10% of Gay Men
7% of Straight Men
9% of Straight Women
* We also recorded data from Americans who identified as pansexual, asexual, and (separately) nonbinary, but each of these identifications was so small as to be less than half of our margin of error, so we’re not including this data due to the potential for misrepresenting their views.
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Standout Signs: Leo & Capricorn
What ANTICIPATORS fantasize about:
“R is a seducer, and the game begins from the moment plans are made. He likes to feel in charge, like the leader, and he keeps a slow pace. Getting him aroused is a matter of great conversation — super intellectual, but with some moments of depth — and extremely veiled and implicit communication. Nothing was ever said out loud. Every night we acted like we weren't sure we would spend the night together after dinner. He liked the game of it, having to do everything again for the first time. Once we were in bed, he wanted to do EVERYTHING before there was any penetration. Once we stood in my doorway and only kissed slowly for 45 minutes before moving to the sofa."
- Anticipator, to us
“We have been waiting months since we last made love, three thousand miles in between us. We've been constantly teasing each other through video chat and messages and pictures. Finally I get on the plane to you, every hour passes by and it's one hour closer to being inside her and our bodies finally touching each other in person. Our fantasies and video chats are finally coming true. And after rushing back home from the airport we just go crazy on each other. Every stroke feels like lightning.”
- Anticipator, to us (Man, 40, Heterosexual, Caregiver)
Pleasing an anticipator
We asked Anticipators what specific acts were important to pleasing them in this mode:
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75% of Anticipators
59% of Americans
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63% of Anticipators
51% of Americans
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60% of Anticipators
47% of Americans
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59% of Anticipators
40% of Americans
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51% of Anticipators
43% of Americans
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47% of Anticipators
35% of Americans
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Not all Anticipators are the same; some told us they also wanted:
Nails dragged on skin
40% Anticipators
27% All Americans
“Slut” or “whore” talk
35% Anticipators
23% All Americans
Climax denial
38% Anticipators
27% All Americans
Coaching from anticipators
• Consider plans, travel, and logistics all opportunities to begin the seduction • Build anticipation slowly and work your partner into a frenzy • Don’t say you want to have sex directly, use subtle cues: a wink, a suggestive tone, a long stare, etc. •
“Start slowly and build the anticipation. I don’t like going straight to the erogenous zones. My body is slow to warm up and I require the build-up to fully immerse myself in the experience. Working myself into a frenzy gives me the most incredible release rather than a quick bang where I more than likely will not be able to climax.”
- Anticipator, to us (54, Woman, Heterosexual, Pharmacy Tech)
“Be encouraging with daily life touching and kissing; let her know exactly how much you desire her. You'll see it in her eyes when it's time. When it's finally here, make it worth every minute you had to wait and afterwards, hold her tight stroking her hair assuring her how amazing and perfect it was.”
- Anticipator, to us (Man, 40, Heterosexual, Caregiver)
“You start slowly and away from sensitive areas. You start and stop, teasing them over and over. And even if they say they can't take it, keep teasing because the longer the wait the better it is when they finally are rewarded.”
- Anticipator, to us (35, Woman, Heterosexual, Delivery Person)
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Watchouts
Avoid the following:
1. Moving too quickly
2. Jumping straight to intercourse
3. Being too explicit with your communication
