Punishment dom

Punishment dom

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PUNISHMENT DOM

6% of Americans

The Lowdown: You are turned on by inflicting pain; your dominance can tap into elements of cruelty, including emotional degradation and physical brutality.

The Partner’s Job:  When you are with a Punishment Dom, your job is to be very proactive and clear about your limits and boundaries, and what expressions of degradation you genuinely enjoy (if any). This will liberate your partner to express their desires while keeping you safe. 

*term originated from kink community

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punishment doms by the Stats

  • 6% of Americans

    5% Women

    6% Men

  • 14% of Gay Men

    11% of Bisexual Women

    6% of Straight Men

    5% of Lesbian Women

    4% of Straight Women

    0% of Bisexual Men


    * We also recorded data from Americans who identified as pansexual, asexual, and (separately) nonbinary, but each of these identifications was so small as to be less than half of our margin of error, so we’re not including this data due to the potential for misrepresenting their views.

  • Standout Signs: Taurus & Cancer

What PUNISHMENT DOMS fantasize about:

“I tie down my partner too restrictively to allow any movement, then poke and prod at their helpless body until I have found the weak spots I plan to exploit. In this particular case, I have a partner who loves pain and can't get enough, but is brutally ticklish and doesn't have much of a pain tolerance with her nipples. So, I clip one nipple clamp on each nipple, thread a length of cord through both, and tie the ends tightly to her toes so that she must flex her feet hard to avoid pulling on the nipple clamps. Then, I sit by her feet and tickle them while she flinches away and continually hurts herself by pulling on her own nipple clamps with her uncontrollable twitching.”

 - A Punishment Dom, to us

“In our bedroom with him on knees in front of me, crying and whimpering while my heels dig into his shoulder and he desperately strokes his cock until I let him cum.”

- A Punishment Dom, to us (24, Woman, Pansexual)

“We are in the basement. My partner is in clown makeup and dressed as a clown. I have a cage that I walk her over to. I put her in the cage and make her strip down. I make her say that she wants me to have her clown pussy.  I make her repeat it. I let her out and she crawls over and takes my cock down her throat. I make her gag on it as tears stream down her face and cum deep down her throat.”

- A Punishment Dom, to us (34, Main, Heterosexual, IT Manager)

Pleasing a punishment dom

We asked Punishment Doms what specific acts were important to pleasing them in this mode:

    • 78% of Punishment Doms

    • 37% of Americans

    • 68% of Punishment Doms

    • 35% of Americans

    • 63% of Punishment Doms

    • 31% of Americans

    • 72% of Punishment Doms

    • 20% of Americans

    • 57% of Punishment Doms

    • 16% of Americans

    • 55% of Punsihment Doms

    • 23% of Americans

  • Not all Punishment Doms are the same; some told us they also wanted:

    Long eye contact

    • 43% Punishment Doms

    • 38% All Americans

    Vulnerable confessions

    • 38% Punishment Doms

    • 17% All Americans

    Long period of emotional connection

    • 37% Punishment Doms

    • 35% All Americans

Coaching from Punishment doms

• Discuss boundaries and preferences prior to the encounter • Establish a clear safeword or gesture • Take the roles seriously •

“My rule is that everything must be discussed before a meeting! Likes and dislikes, how far are you willing to go and a safe word! I don’t want to meet a guy and have to discuss everything! You should talk about all the rules before you meet! It kills the mood to hear someone say it hurts or stop that! I’m over it if that happens! I do respect people and we should both get pleasure from the encounter!”

- A Punishment Dom, to us (53, Man, Gay)

“They would have to very clearly communicate to me what the limits are for their willingness to suffer, agree to safewords AND safe gestures. Bratting is allowed, but will be punished harshly and is not recommended. The only option that ends the scene is a safe word/gesture. I will not respond to begging, tears, or other attempts to deter me. When it's over, I want to see the results of the experience. Marks on the partner's body, makeup running, a change in demeanor, whatever is organic to the situation. I like to see photos of any marks as they develop in the days after.”

- A Punishment Dom, to us

“Make sure you set a scary scene for your victim, dress in a wild scary costume, maybe leather. At least have one or two ways to inflict some pain and a good threatening surprise to amp up the punishment. Go slow and make them feel totally out of control, abandoned, and alone at your mercy, none of which you will supply.”

- A Punishment Dom, to us (80, Man, Heterosexual)

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Watchouts


Avoid the following:

1. Going past what you can handle, not communicating limits

2. Not stopping or slowing action mid-scene

3. Masking fear or pain completely 

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