You are turned on by deep, soulful, emotional intimacy; you like the passionate intensity of “merging into one” or “losing yourself” in someone else.

You are turned on by cinematic acts of romance; foreplay for you is hours of cute activities and goofing off with your partner as you build to sex.

You crave the physical closeness of sex, skin contact/cuddling — maybe even more than the sex itself; you want to hold and/or be held.

You are turned on by gentle, romantic sex; you like the warmup to be slow and comfortable with an air of sensuality.

You are turned on by games of cat and mouse, play fighting; you love chasing, laughter, teasing, wrestling, rough-and-tumble play.

You are turned on by "why don't you make me?" sex; you like to playfully challenge your partner's authority because you want to be put in your place.

For you, pain is pleasure; you want your partner to handle you roughly: slapping, choking, hard spanking, and other acts in the pursuit of pleasurable pain — consensually, of course.

You take pleasure in surrendering your power, but only temporarily, and only to someone who’s earned it: you find pleasure in giving control to someone strong and capable. You are the queen, but tonight you want to be dominated.

You live to serve the one who has power over you — including exerting your power over them when they desire it. In this role, you are both the knight in shining armor and the dark knight, sweeping your partner off their feet and using your strength to dominate.

You like a sensual, passionate encounter that can be rough, but not painful: light choking, spanking, or manhandling just to remind you of your vulnerability.

For you, being pleased means being spoiled: relaxation, admiration, pampering — it’s all for you. You like your body/pleasure to be the center of the action.

You are turned on by being degraded: you want a partner who can treat you like a “slut,” like a “whore,” who “uses” you for their pleasure.

You are turned on by being the object of desire for someone with more experience or power: you want to be guided, led, taught, and doing a “good job” brings you pleasure.

You are turned on by inflicting pain; your dominance can tap into elements of cruelty, including emotional degradation and physical brutality.

You are turned on by the raw, physical act of sex: there’s nothing cruel in your aggressive, animalistic urges — but there’s nothing tender, either.

You enjoy playing caretaker and boundary-holder; you want to play the role as the more experienced partner, but with a soft style that includes lots of praise, affirmation, and validation.

You are primarily turned on by your ability to please your partner. You’re pleased by seeing, feeling, hearing and, most of all, being the cause of your partner’s pleasure.

You are excited to learn and master the skills and tricks of creating pleasure. Like picking a lock or crafting a watch, you pay attention to specific details in perfecting your partner's physical and emotional experience.

You are turned on by being watched and admired in states of undress, pleasure, or sex acts.

You are aroused by the right mood or vibe: weather, scents, textures, music — all of these and more contribute to a vibe that turns you on — and the wrong vibe can turn you off.

You are turned on by being animalistic, following intuition and instinct. You like it better when things are messy, juicy, wet; sex is best when you follow sensation and let go of feeling “civilized”.

You are strongly turned on by teasing, gentle touches — fingers, feathers, other soft instruments or light nails: the slightest touch can lead to goosebumps and chills.

Sex isn’t satisfying unless you have to wait for it, anticipate it, yearn for it; teasing, taunting, withholding — even without being touched — you need these until you can’t take it anymore.

You are looking for a spiritual experience in sex; you pursue pleasure not just for its own sake, but to connect you to something greater than yourself.

For you, the permission, the opportunity, the freedom to pursue your desires is as pleasing — or even more pleasing — than pleasure itself; you want to let go, break free — and you’ll do almost anything to get it.

You are turned on by what’s “bad” for you, what’s “wrong” for you — what you’re not allowed to have; you find pleasure in pushing or even crossing boundaries, whether with a partner or on your own.

You are turned on by leading someone else to their edge. You find pleasure and satisfaction in someone indulging in their “dark side” — all because you showed it to them.

You are turned on by sex that will be an incredible story. You love spontaneity, exciting locations, and new circumstances. Sometimes you have sex just for the story.

You are turned on by novelty and experimentation: new sex acts, interesting locations, unique toys, and novel contexts.

You are turned on by stepping into fantastical stories, acting out scenarios. For you, sex is like theater: costumes, characters, and roleplay are all essential.

You are turned on by enthusiasm, by just trying things that could be fun: your favorite sex is filled with laughter, discovery, and joy.

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WHICH ARE YOU?